First Impressions

Skirt: Old (moms)
Shirt: Forever 21
Belt: Vintage
Shoes: Keds
Hat: Forever 21
Sunglasses: Forever 21

I will be the first to admit I am the WORST at judging people in the first 30 seconds of meeting them (maybe its my odd love for stereotyping/profiling people)....the worst, is that I am usually overly "judgy" of them and often times completely read them wrong. However, I am also the WORST at making a positive first impression on people! Sure, I am the girl who looks like she stepped out of a different decade and always dresses up wherever I go, but apparently aside from that impression I also have another impression that everyone gets when they first meet me.......

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone, a close friend, acquaintance, co-worker, etc. and they tell you what their first impression of you was? It's one of those conversations you will NEVER forget and somehow this semester has been filled with everyone telling me what their first impression of me was (I have no clue what brought that on). To be honest, at times what they tell me is often slightly shocking, but also kind of funny!

Maybe its that I can be a very serious person and paired with my also being an Introvert, I can tend to come off a little intense to some people (as I am finding out). Turns out all of my good friends, when they first met me, thought I was a mean person and someone they wouldn't want to hang out with. Evidently that changed, but it is just so interesting to find out that the people who I am closest to now once never wanted to have anything to do with me because of the person they "thought" I was.....i.e. because of their first impression of me! 

Even more interesting to me, was finding out from all of my co-workers what they first thought of me. As you all know I am an RA up at college, and apparently the impression I gave off to all of my co-workers was that I was going to follow the rules, was serious about my job might snitch on others who didn't do what they were supposed to do, and apparently I also came off very confident and focused no the job at hand....in short they found me slightly intimidating.  Coincidentally, one of my co-workers (who I am super close with now) would even do everything above and beyond around me because she thought I would tell our boss and she would get fired (lol). She also recently told me, that one of her other friends had to actually convince her to get to know me, but thankfully now we are super good friends (yay).

It always surprises me to find out what others think of me, especially mo co-workers, because once one person mentions something then they all start talking, and come to find out the first impression I tend to give off is being very overly serious and slightly intimidation (which has a negative vibe). Somehow that never makes since to me, considering I am very quiet, but I suppose in my quietness I am very focused at the job at hand. Yes, I will admit that I can be serious, but it's never the kind of serious that shouts "I am better than you and don't want to have anything to do with you" kind of serious. Thankfully, now that I have worked with everyone for an entire semester, they know that I am not really that way at all and that I am actually very approachable and nice, but there is still a side to me that appears and shows through in a positive light, that I am very confident, self assured, and serious about what I do.

With all that being said, I have realized that I myself have been just as wrong in my first impressions of people as others have been about me. So often we only judge based on what we can see or hear from others when that is not the most valid way of judging a person. It is once you actually spend time with them, get to know them, or see them with their friends that you can make an accurate judge of who they are and come to find out that you were (most often) completely wrong about them! Therefore, I want to encourage you to always take the extra step in getting to know someone. In regards to myself, after finding out what people first though of me it makes me reevaluate how I come off to strangers. I have realized that most often I give off a negative and intimidating first impression and I desperately need to work on that. Therefore I know that I need to work on smiling more in general when I am going about my day, and also be more open and friendly to people I come across in life so as not to intimidate them with my all to noticeable serious side.....I am a nice person....I PROMISE.

Have you ever misjudged someone? 
Has someone ever gotten the wrong first impression of you?

-Madison


12 comments

  1. Cute look! Once again, great job paring sneakers with a skirt.
    What you said was really interesting! I'm glad that your friends and co-workers got to know you better, as I'm glad mine have. :) I think as introverts, we definitely run the risk of coming across stuck-up or severe when we're really just thoughtful and dare I say...shy. ;)

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    1. Ocouldnt agree more with you Paige! I love what you said about being "thoughtful" because that is so true:)
      -Madison

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  2. Love the outfit! It can be so interesting to learn what others thought when first meeting you. A lot of people are surprised when they really get to know me because I tend to be reserved when meeting people for the first time. My supervisor at work recently told me that they didn't think I would make it and I've been at my job for over a year now! She changed her mind now, but it was kind of a shock to me. I agree with what Paige said too on how introverts are thoughtful, not stuck-up.

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    1. Ah, I can totally relate with you Elizabeth on the whole "reserved" part. To be honest I am surprised that part of me didn't keep me from getting the job I have now:)
      -Madison

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  3. I love the outfit :) I have a weird tendency of judging people really fast by the way they speak, walk and generally act. To be honest I don’t understand the people that don’t judge others, I mean I don’t mean to do it it just happens so why would it not happen to other people?
    http://kllaudiiia.blogspot.com
    Klaudia xx

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    1. You are so right Klaudia! Most people are sort to judge others, as its in our human nature.
      -Madison

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  4. First of all, I LOVE THE OUTFIT!!! (As always, but I have to mention it.) And the words you put forth are so insightful and funny! I would say that I give the opposite impression to people. When I first meet people, I get SUPER friendly and excited. I talk a thousand miles an hour and smile at everything. I guess that's the way I like to make my first impression. But once someone told me that his friends thought I was a hippie (due to my floral attire) and offered me drinks. I was so confused about that, I thought they were joking!

    Great post!

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    1. That is to funny about the hippie story...I would have been confused also.
      BTW...I really loved your last post:)
      -Madison

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  5. Ohh I know what you mean. Sometimes I surprise myself with being so right about certain persons that I first thought I would never like them, but usually I am totally wrong and overly "judgy". I have heard that first impressions of me has been very negative, like I am proud and "knowing my worth", and I know I am nothing like that in reality :D I don't know why, maybe because I am not that "smiley" person.

    And sweet outfit, again <3

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  6. I wonder what people think of me on first impression.... hmmmm. I think introverts might get the harder rap in some cases, just because we find it hard to approach someone and say hello and so stand aloof, and thus perhaps give the impression of being proud. I think anyone can get the rap though when they are too wrapped up with their friends to try to get to know the new person. I know I need to work on that, and also the smiling thing, and getting out of my comfort zone and saying hello within five minutes of trying to make up my mind to introduce myself. :)

    Sarah
    www.sewcharacteristicallyyou.com/blog

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  7. I feel like you understand my mind completely! Sometimes I wish the more outgoing people would just make the first move to say hello instead of leaving it all on us and then thinking we are mean!
    -Madison

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